Friday, June 27, 2008

That helpless feeling...

I hate knowing something is wrong, knowing someone is in trouble and needs help and not being able to make it happen! Arrrrrrhhhh! It's infuriating and frustrating and makes me feel helpless and ineffective and ... awful. I'm watching that happen right now with a woman in a horribly abusive situation, mentally and physically, and it's driving me nuts.

I'm doing what I can, which isn't much, but the ball is really in her court. There are people trying to help her, making a way for her to get out of the situation she's in, but until she is willing to take the proferred hand and make the first step out the door, all the efforts are in vain. That's the part that frustrates me most.

I believe with all my heart that we learn lessons in life through experience. Most of the time we're where we are, experiencing whatever we're experiencing, because we've got something to learn. Sometimes it's a direct, immediate cause-and-effect relationship; sometimes I have to think it's more karmic. In all cases, we usually keep experiencing until we get the lesson. The learning shifts our behavior which changes our experience and we start with new lessons. I don't want to interfere with anyone's learning experience but DAMN! Get this one already and get the hell out of there!

Sorry...had to say that somewhere. End of rant...back to work...


  1. Powerful post. What do you do? Just what you have done. You share your wisdom: you speak your truth and let go of the outcome.

    You provide an ear to listen to her grief and a strong shoulder for her to lean upon.
    And you hope, like hell, that she finally learns the lesson she so desperately needs- in this lifetime.

    I often wonder how people let themselves get into such situations, then I look at the prominent religion of this country, and I assign much of the blame to them. I blame this religion of "free will" for indoctrinating millions of women into obediant nothingness.

    First, they're taught blind obedience to their fathers, the head of the house. Then they're taught that they have no worth without "God." Is it any wonder that so many women stay in abusive relationships?

  2. Insightful...this woman has stated the she feels like God is punishing her for past sins; that she deserves what's happening to her. It no longer shocks but will always sadden me that such a twisted image of God can and does wreck so much havoc.


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